Mel makes101 goals to complete in 1001 days....

2009-02-08T19:05:00.002-07:00

i'm going to be doing some major upheaval of many of the goals... life has taken some interesting turns that have changed my idea of what is key in my life now...
that is all i have to say about it right now.

some updates

2008-10-26T15:15:00.002-06:00

I have things in progress - and that's always good...

I set one of the TBD goals -- #70: Get initiated into AEPhi with the UCI chapter
doing that would be the ultimate culmination of goals ever, since my dream over 6 years ago was to bring AEPhi to UCI and i then started a local sorority, which this year has finally become AEPhi, and i'm beyond stoked.

The only goal which is completed at this point is #82. Go to the mountains in the summer, which Dustin and I did... Though it was technically fall the mountains still felt pretty summery which is good enough for me!

updates...

2008-09-28T09:27:00.002-06:00

There are a few things in the works, and a few which need to be changed, or at least have the numbers revised after having gone through some serious medical stuff the past few weeks with no real end in sight...
The candida diet is on hold, as is all exercise other than what is assigned by my physical therapist.
Dustin and I have been spending some us time which is good and have had some special Shabbat guests...
I was doing good on the gratitude journal until my hospital stay - so need to start that back up again.

the "unofficial fiance"

2008-09-08T17:22:00.001-06:00

Since one person was bold enough to ask the question which may be on other's minds as well - here is how I can have an "unofficial fiance"
My boyfriend and I are planning to get married. Everyone in our lives knows this is where we headed and are excited. We have picked out and purchased an engagement ring, discussed the wedding and reception, and he has even discussed our date preference with our Rabbi's wife. All this aside, he has not put the ring on my finger, despite knowing it is going to be there soon.... thus, unofficial ;-)

Start Date

2008-09-07T19:09:00.003-06:00

I just decided that my official start date will be Friday, Sept 12 which makes 1001 days Friday, June 10, 2011 - which just so happens to be my wonderful unofficial Fiance's 29th birthday.
Seems like as good a time as any!

My List!

2008-09-07T18:42:00.001-06:00

The Challenge
1. Donate $1.00 to charity of my choice for every goal met
2. Donate $1.00 to charity of ((someone else)’s choice for every goal not met
3. Donate $1.00 to ((another someone else))’s charity for every goal changed (aside from those left TBD for life growth along the way, or necessary due to major life events)

Religion and Spirituality
4. Learn PDZ
5. Become part of PDZ rotation
6. Learn HEA Shacharit melodies
7. Daven Shacharit @ HEA
8. Leyn torah at least once a year (o/3)
9. Leyn a new haftorah at least once a year (o/3)
10. Learn a “special trope”
11. Leyn something with “special trope”
12. Invite non-regulars for Shabbat at least 10x per year (2/30)
13. Spend Shabbat just the two of us once every other month (2/18)
14. Learn more about praying solo
15. Pray shacharit every day for a month (to make it habit) (o/30)
16. Keep praying shacharit
17. Meditate at least once per week (6/143)
18. Spend a Shabbat on the West Side
19. Start saying Tehillim
20. Take a class at HEA
21. Help plan all night Shavuot study session
22. Study in Israel
23. Read: How to Run a Traditional Jewish Household
24. TBD Goal
25. TBD Goal

Health and Wellness
26. Take daily vitamins
27. See OBGYN
28. Start new BC method
29. Get annual physical
30. See my specialists as needed
31. Gym - tbd after recovery
32. Yoga, Pilates, etc - tbd after recover
33. Drink water!
34. Buy new pedometer and increase number of steps weekly (o/33)
35. Keep up Candida diet
36. Find and see Dentist
37. TBD Goal
38. TBD Goal

Relationships
39. Have a date night (or day) once per month (2/33)
40. Send bday and anniversary cards
41. Alternate who we spend Shabbat afternoons with
42. Have play dates with local friends
43. Make random phone calls to old friends
44. TBD Goal
45. TBD Goal

Career
46. Decide on second graduate degree
47. Apply (and start if possible) graduate program
48. Find a job that makes me happy
49. Get involved with ED Recovery community
50. Finish writing “My Story”
51. Join NASW
52. Renew NASW membership yearly (o/2)
53. Renew CANPO membership (or related program post-move) (o/3)
54. TBD Goal
55. TBD Goal

Community Activism
56. Successfully complete ADL - Glass Partners in Leadership Program
57. Volunteer in homeless rehabilitation community
58. Volunteer for JFS
59. Get more active in Darfur awareness activities
60. TBD Goal
61. TBD Goal

Me Time!
62. Dance randomly
63. Investigate the house music scene in Denver
64. Lay out with a good book in the summer
65. Color or dance for stress relief
66. Complete MS 50 mile walk
67. Complete another distance charity walk (TBD)
68. Start keeping a gratitude journal, write daily (o/1001)
69. Do hair and makeup regularly
70. Get initiated into AEPhi with the UCI chapter
71. TBD Goal

Financial
72. Pay off old medical bills
73. Pay bills on time each month (2/33)
74. Use coupons to reduce grocery bills
75. Turn off computers more to reduce energy bills
76. Switch to lower energy use light bulbs
77. Increase credit score
78. Find a way to reduce Comcast bill
79. TBD Goal
80. TBD Goal

Travel
81. Go to the mountains in the winter
~~82. Go to the mountains in the summer~~
83. So Cal (w/D – including Shabbat in LA)
84. Seattle (w/D)
85. Chicago (w/D)
86. Israel (w/D)
87. Boston (w/D)
88. New Mexico (w/D)
89. South Dakota
90. Someplace w/D neither of us has ever been and we don’t have friends
91. TBD Goal
92. TBD Goal

Movies and Books
93. Check out local library and use for supplementary books
94. Chose one book each month that I wouldn’t normally read @ Book Club (3/33)
95. Read 50+ books per yr (o/3)
96. Sign up for Netflix
97. Watch movies D is interested in with him
98. See Sicko
99. Find Bonsieur Mr. Shlomo and buy/watch with D
100. TBD Goal
101. TBD Goal

The Challenge

2008-09-07T18:41:00.000-06:00

The Mission:
Complete 101 preset tasks in a period of 1001 days.

The Criteria:
Tasks must be specific (ie. no ambiguity in the wording) with a result that is either measurable or clearly defined. Tasks must also be realistic and stretching (ie. represent some amount of work on my part).

Why 1001 Days?
Many people have created lists in the past - frequently simple goals such as New Year's resolutions. The key to beating procrastination is to set a deadline that is realistic. 1001 Days (about 2.75 years) is a better period of time than a year, because it allows you several seasons to complete the tasks, which is better for organising and timing some tasks such as overseas trips or outdoor activities.

Some common goal setting tips:
1. Be decisive. Know exactly what you want, why you want it, and how you plan to achieve it.

2. Stay Focussed. Any goal requires sustained focus from beginning to end. Constantly evaluate your progress.

3. Welcome Failure. Frequently, very little is learned from a venture that did not experience failure in some form. Failure presents the opportunity to learn and makes the success more worthy.

4. Write down your goals. It clarifies your thinking and reinforces your commitment.

5. Keep your goals in sight. Review them frequently, and ensure that they are always at the forefront of your thinking.